Some basic problem solving skills that can be used to deal with solvable problems in marriage

They have had some bitter and painful fights over this issue for the past fifteen years. Both have become entrenched in their position viewing the other as being childish and stubborn. Ask yourself, is the sum total of our marriage made up of this one problem alone?
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Lakisha:
Years later, he finds me on Facebook.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
Again we lose contact for some reason.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
Year later he reaches out again and reminds me of the letters he wrote and starts telling me how he felt about me.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
I respond to his email and we let each other know what's being going on in our lives.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
Until I received an email from him two years later, I don't even know how he found me.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
After a while I lost access to my email address and never really thought of him again.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
I think we exchanged email addresses before he left.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
Again, I am friendly and I never mention his letter, I actually forgot all about it.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
The next year his work sends him to the same area for few months.
(15 November 2016)

Lakisha:
Back then we didn't have emails yet.I thought I will never see his person again.
(15 November 2016)